EMOTIONAL ABUSE CHECKLIST

CULT LEADER TACTICS/BEHAVIORS – FOLLOWER SYMPTOMOLOGY
  • Signs of Emotional Abuse, By Maria Bogdanos, [1] [1]See Website for descriptions of each sign


5 questions to see if you are abusing or being abused:

  1.  Humiliation, degradation, discounting, negating. judging, criticizing
  2.  Domination, control, and shame
  3.  Accusing and blaming, trivial and unreasonable demands or expectations, denies own shortcomings
  4.  Emotional distancing and the “silent treatment,” isolation, emotional abandonment or neglect
  5.  Codependence and enmeshment

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[1] PsychCentral, Signs of Emotional Abuse, By Maria Bogdanos, https://psychcentral.com/blog/signs-of-emotional-abuse/

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  • 42 Domestic Violence Warning Signs [2]

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A. Signs of Physical Abuse:

  1.  Hitting, punching, kicking, shoving, choking or slapping you
  2.  Using weapons to inflict harm or threaten you
  3.  Controlling what you eat or when you sleep
  4.  Forcing you to do work against your will
  5.  Forcing you to use drugs or alcohol
  6.  Stopping you from seeking medical treatment or calling the police

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         B. Signs of Emotional Abuse:

  1.  Attacking your sense of self worth
  2.  Insulting you, calling you names, criticizing you, humiliating you
  3.  Acting jealous or possessive, accusing you of being with other partners
  4.  Withholding affection or acknowledgement in order to punish you
  5.  Cheating on you intentionally
  6.  Lying to you

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         C. Signs of Psychological Abuse

  1.  Threatening to hurt you, your loved ones, your pets, your children, or your possessions
  2.  Controlling the time you spend with others, or monitoring where you go
  3.  Controlling what you wear, often with the accusation that you attract too much attention
  4.  Damaging or stealing your belongings
  5.  Blaming you for the abuse, saying that you deserve what happens or that you instigated the problem
  6.  Gaslighting, i.e. saying things to make you question your perception of reality, such as “That never happened, you never remember correctly,” or “Don’t get angry over such little things, you’re too sensitive.”

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         D. Continuation of 42 Domestic Violence Warning Signs also include (See website for full description):

  • Signs of Sexual Abuse & Coercion
  • Signs of Reproductive Coercion
  • Signs of Financial Abuse
  • Signs of Digital Abuse
  • Signs of Stalking

[2] Signs of Emotional Abuse, 42 Domestic Violence Warning Signs, October 2016,

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1. ↑ See Website for descriptions of each sign