Narcissistic abuse is what a person in a relationship with someone that meets the criteria for narcissistic (NPD) or antisocial (APD) personality disorder experiences. The potentially crippling, life long effects of narcissistic abuse on a partner’s mental health form a cluster of symptoms, not yet included in the DSM, known as narcissist victim syndrome. See Article / Blog
Narcissists can be charming and draw individuals and whole systems in. They often damage others, particularly those who are less powerful. In this talk, we discuss the diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality disorder, how a narcissistic leader can impact and shape a system, and some ways to respond. See more at http://www.FOCLonline.org
Historically, when someone has experienced trauma that has a lasting impact, they have been diagnosed with Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). In recent years those who work with trauma victims have advocated for an additional category: Complex Trauma. Therapeutic work with those who have experienced either multiple traumas or repetitive and chronic trauma from a caregiver manifest differently than PTSD and seem to demand a different diagnosis. See more at http://www.FOCLonline.org
“Your words to me just a whisper, Your face is so unclear, I try to pay attention, Your words just disappear, ‘Cause it’s always raining in my head.” Staind, Epiphany, 2001 Artist: Staind, Album: Break the Cycle, Released: 2001
The URANTIA Book language preaches, “The family is the fundamental unit of fraternity in which parents and children learn those lessons of patience, altruism, tolerance, and forbearance which are so essential to the realization of brotherhood among all men.” * 84:7:28 (941.9) The Urantia Book. Chicago: Urantia Foundation, 1955
Meanwhile, sometimes it was a belt, but usually Dad’s redirection was ‘Big Hands,’ which was my Grandmother’s term for hitting. I received one particular belt-welt on my upper thigh, when Dad had chased me into the kitchen, and I had nowhere to run. I don’t think he’d liked the mark it had left that time.
“…suppressing our recollections can create a “virtual lesion” in the brain that casts an “amnesiac shadow” over the formation of new memories.” (Davis, 2016)  Nicola Davis, Suppressing traumatic memories can cause amnesia, research suggests, New study could explain why people suffering from PTSD and other psychological disorders can have difficulty forming everyday memories, 2016 https://www.theguardian.com/science/2016/mar/15/suppressing-traumatic-memories-can-cause-amnesia-research-suggests
It’s interesting that they term this ‘virtual wound’ as a ‘shadow,’ since I called mine a ‘Grey Box.’ My ‘Grey Box of Practiced Memory-Loss’ could get out of control — it still can. When I’d realized I could purposely, actively call it up to watch it cover and drag away a thought, it was interesting. It was entertaining.
My Father would tell me God’s secrets and I wasn’t supposed to share them with anyone, so it became advantageous that the Grey Box covered and dragged away a story or incident. At the point of the next continuation of the same conversation, most of the event would float to the surface and bloom open for me to recall.
Nicola Davis, Suppressing traumatic memories can cause amnesia, research suggests, New study could explain why people suffering from PTSD and other psychological disorders can have difficulty forming everyday memories, 2016 https://www.theguardian.com/science/2016/mar/15/suppressing-traumatic-memories-can-cause-amnesia-research-suggests