“Trauma bonds often keep us tethered to the abuser, as well as other factors such as codependency, low self-esteem, feelings of low worth, which may have been instilled in us from the abusive patterns within the relationship…” (Arabi, 2016) Shahida Arabi, Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself, SCW Archer Publishing, 2016
“We should not desire to have people who have mistreated us back into our lives. …No Contact is a way to remove this abusive person’s toxic influence so we can live happier, healthier lives while …minimizing people-pleasing. No Contact is the key that locks out that person from ever entering our heart, mind, and spirit in any palpable way again.” (Arabi, 2018) Shahida Arabi, This Is What It REALLY Means To Go No Contact With An Abusive Narcissist, https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2018/02/this-is-what-it-really-means-to-go-no-contact-with-an-abusive-narcissist/ While this may work with leaving and moving on from an abusive spouse, it doesn’t quite work as a daughter.
“By establishing No Contact, we essentially remove ourselves from being a source of supply in what is clearly a non-reciprocal, dysfunctional relationship.” Arabi’s 30 Kickass Affirmations For Going No Contact, https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2017/05/30-kickass-affirmations-for-going-no-contact-with-an-abusive-narcissist/
“We don’t have to use our voice with people who are committed to misunderstanding, invalidating and mistreating us… intent on silencing you, … helping people who are actually able to evolve (and this includes yourself!) is a much better use of your voice than trying to convince a person without empathy to treat you well.” (Arabi, 2017) Shahida Arabi, thoughtcatalogue.com, https://selfcarehaven.wordpress.com/tag/narcissistic-abusers/, 2017