About Sam Vaknin
Sam Vaknin ( http://samvak.tripod.com/mediakit.html ) is the author of Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited as well as many other books and ebooks about topics in psychology, relationships, philosophy, economics, international affairs, and award-winning short fiction.
He is Visiting Professor of Psychology, Southern Federal University, Rostov-on-Don, Russia and Professor of Finance and Psychology in CIAPS (Centre for International Advanced and Professional Studies).
He was the Editor-in-Chief of Global Politician and served as a columnist for Central Europe Review, PopMatters, eBookWeb , and Bellaonline, and as a United Press International (UPI) Senior Business Correspondent. He was the editor of mental health and Central East Europe categories in The Open Directory and Suite101. His YouTube channels garnered 20,000,000 views and 85,000 subscribers.
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The Cult of the Narcissist
The narcissist is the guru at the centre of a cult. Like other gurus, he demands complete obedience from his flock: his spouse, his offspring, other family members, friends, and colleagues. He feels entitled to adulation and special treatment by his followers. He punishes the wayward and the straying lambs. He enforces discipline, adherence to his teachings, and common goals. The less accomplished he is in reality – the more stringent his mastery, the more outlandish and incredible his mission and message, and the more pervasive the brainwashing…
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Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited (FULL TEXT) [Kindle Edition]
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The FULL TEXT of Sam Vaknin’s classic, groundbreaking BIBLE of NARCISSISM and NARCISSISTIC ABUSE, now in its 9th edition. Tips and advice as well as the most complete clinical background. Narcissistic Personality Disorder and its effects on the narcissist, the psychopath and their nearest and dearest – in 100 frequently asked questions and two essays – a total of 680 pages! Updated to reflect the NEW criteria in the recent fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM).
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A to Z of Narcissistic Abuse, Narcissism, and Narcissistic Personality Disorder Encyclopedia: The Narcissism Bible [Kindle Edition]
More than 1000 pages of A to Z entries: the first comprehensive encyclopedia of pathological narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder in clinical and non-clinical settings; family, workplace, church, community, law enforcement and judiciary, and politics.
Narcissistic and Psychopathic Parents And their Children [Kindle Edition]
Narcissistic and Psychopathic Parents And their Children: the role of parental abuse and trauma in the development of narcissistic and psychopathic personalities. Pathological narcissism is a reaction to prolonged abuse and trauma in early childhood or early adolescence. The source of the abuse or trauma is immaterial – the perpetrators could be parents, teachers, other adults, or peers. Pampering, smothering, spoiling, and “engulfing” the child are also forms of abuse.
I Want My Narcissist and Psychopath Back! I Miss Him So Much, It Hurts! [Kindle Edition]
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1718047185 (Print Edition)
You broke up with your narcissist or psychopath: your spouse, mate, or intimate partner. You mourn the lopsided “relationship”, you contemplate giving him a second chance, you want closure. You know you are a survivor of abuse, a victim – but you crave his presence. Could you be a codependent? An inverted narcissist? Are you traumatized? Do you suffer from Complex Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD)? How should you go about divorcing him when you are still so bonded with and attached to him?
The Narcissistic and Psychopathic Criminal [Kindle Edition]
Narcissists and psychopaths are, by definition, antisocial and tend to gravitate to crime. They are over-represented in all manner of criminal activities: from white-collar malfeasance and securities fraud to violent felonies and among serial and mass killers. What, in their psychological makeup renders them prone to such self-destructive and self-defeating pursuits?
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD): The Facts [Kindle Edition]
Pathological narcissism is a life-long pattern of traits and behaviours which signify infatuation and obsession with one’s self to the exclusion of all others and the egotistic and ruthless pursuit of one’s gratification, dominance, and ambition. As distinct from healthy narcissism, which we all possess, pathological narcissism is maladaptive, rigid, persisting, and causes significant distress and functional impairment.
Narcissism and Psychopathy – Guides to Issues [Kindle Edition]
Detailed topic guides to everything you ever wanted to know about narcissists and psychopaths and about having a relationship with one: at home, in Church, the workplace, as neighbors, colleagues, and “friends” or “intimate partners”. Links to and excerpts from hundreds of free, in-depth articles, coping strategies, advice, and tips.
Confessions Diary of a Narcissist [Kindle Edition]
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1982957042 (Print Edition)
A first-hand account of the anatomy of a malignant mental illness (Narcissistic Personality Disorder): its traumatic origins, its inexorable unfolding, its pernicious outcomes.
The Inverted (Covert) Narcissist Codependent [Kindle Edition]
The Inverted (Covert) Narcissist Codependent https://www.amazon.com/Inverted-Covert-Narcissist-Codependent/dp/1719828261/ (Paperback)
Also called “covert narcissist”, inverted narcissist is a co-dependent who depends exclusively on narcissists (narcissist-co-dependent).
The inverted narcissist craves to be in a relationship with a narcissist, regardless of any abuse inflicted on her. She actively seeks relationships with narcissists and only with narcissists, no matter what her (bitter and traumatic) past experience has been. She feels empty and unhappy in relationships with non-narcissists.
Violent, Vindictive, Sadistic, and Psychopathic Narcissists [Kindle Edition]
Narcissists are not prone to “irresistible impulses” and dissociation (blanking out certain stressful events and actions). They more or less fully control their behavior and acts at all times. But exerting control over one’s conduct requires the investment of resources, both mental and physical. Narcissists regard this as a waste of their precious time, or a humiliating chore. Lacking empathy, they don’t care about other people’s feelings, needs, priorities, wishes, preferences, and boundaries. As a result, narcissists are awkward, tactless, painful, taciturn, abrasive and insensitive. They are also prone to rage attacks and temper tantrums which they turn on and off at will.
Abuse, Trauma, and Torture – Their Consequences and Effects [Kindle Edition]
The effects on victims and survivors of traumatic experiences, long-term and repeated abuse, and torture. Includes in-depth profile of the Narcissistic Abuser and hundreds of links to literature and resources.
Coping with Stalking and Stalkers [Kindle Edition]
Stalkers are not made of one cloth. Some of them are psychopaths, others are schizoids, narcissists, paranoids, or an admixture of these mental health disorders. Stalkers harass their victims because they are lonely, or because it is fun (these are latent sadists), or because they can’t help it (clinging or co-dependent behaviour), or for a myriad different reasons.
Clearly, coping techniques suited to one type of stalker may backfire or prove to be futile with another.
The Lonely and Recluse Narcissist: Comorbid Narcissistic and Schizoid Personality Disorders [Kindle Edition]
Some narcissists are lone wolves, recluses, or hermits. They loathe human company and avoid it. All narcissists go through such phases of withdrawal, integral parts of their idealization-devaluation cycles (approach-avoidance repetition complex.) Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and Schizoid Personality Disorder share the same aetiology, psychodynamics, traits (such as grandiosity) and behavior patterns.
Cyclopedic Index of Narcissistic and Other Personality Disorder [Kindle Edition]
Links to more than 250 online encyclopedic entries about Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), Self-love, Narcissism, Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Relationships with Abusers, Stalkers, and Bullies.
EXCERPTS ONLY Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited [Kindle Edition]
Narcissistic Personality Disorder and abusive relationships with narcissists and psychopaths described and analyzed in 100+ frequently asked questions (FAQs), and dozens of topical articles.
Excerpts and Case Studies from the Archives of the Narcissistic Abuse Study Group [Kindle Edition]
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1521121850 (Print Edition)
Hundreds of excerpts from the archives of the Narcissistic Abuse Study List regarding Pathological Narcissism, relationships with abusive narcissists and psychopaths, and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).
How to Divorce a Narcissist or a Psychopath [Kindle Edition]
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1983318094 (Print Edition)
Divorcing a narcissist or a psychopath is no easy or dangerless task. This book is no substitute for legal aid, though it does provide copious advice on anything from hiring an attorney, to domestic violence shelters, planning your getaway, involving the police, and obtaining restraining orders. Issues from court-mandated evaluation to custody are elaborated upon.
The book describes the psychology of psychopathic narcissists, paranoids, bullies and stalkers and guides you through dozens of coping strategies and techniques, especially if you have shared children.
How to Recognize a Narcissist or a Psychopath on Your First Date, before It is Too Late [Kindle Edition]
This step-by-step guide with real-life examples answers the question: is there anything you can do to avoid abusers and narcissists to start with? Are there any warning signs, any identifying marks, rules of thumb to shield you from the harrowing and traumatic experience of an abusive relationship?
Imagine a first or second date. You can already tell if he is a would-be abuser. This booklet tells you how.
Narcissistic Abuse: From Victim to Survivor – How to Survive Relationships with Narcissists and Psychopaths [Kindle Edition]
Rescue fantasies, malignant optimism, how to love, live with, or abandon a narcissist, narcissistic tactics, relationship dynamics, remaining friends with the narcissist.
Psychology of Con-artists, Fraudsters, and Scammers [Kindle Edition]
Most con-artists, fraudsters, and scammers are psychopathic narcissists. They have grandiose, delusional fantasies and are convinced in their own omnipotence and immunity. They are above the Law. Indeed, they are a law unto themselves. They cultivate cults of believers, followers, and fans: ultimately, their victims.
Narcissistic Abuse FAQs: Frequently Asked Questions about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse in Relationships (from: “Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited”) [Kindle Edition]
https://www.amazon.com/dp/9989929122 (Print Edition)
Dozens of Frequently Asked Questions regarding Pathological Narcissism, relationships with abusive narcissists and psychopaths, and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).
The World of the Narcissist: Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited – The Essay [Kindle Edition]
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1717820077 (Print Edition)
Psychodynamic study of pathological narcissism, relationships with abusive narcissists and psychopaths, and the Narcissistic Personality Disorder, using a new vocabulary.
Narcissism Book of Quotes [Kindle Edition]
A collection of quotes from the collective wisdom of 12000 online discussions about narcissists, psychopaths, and narcissistic abuse
Narcissism, Group Behavior, and Terrorism [Kindle Edition]
In the absence of legitimate political venues of airing grievances, terrorism is sometimes the only mode of expression. It also guarantees social mobility and respectability. It restores the terrorists’ feelings of omnipotence, omnipresence (“we are everywhere and to be feared globally”), and omniscience (“we know best because we are the righteous”) which are repeatedly shattered by the West’s clear superiority in every conceivable field.
Terrorism is, therefore, a form of mass therapy through shared psychosis. This is an especially insidious recipe. As long as people are narcissistically injured, envious, and rageful – terrorism is here to stay.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) Catechism [Kindle Edition]
Questions and answers regarding all aspects of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in intimate relationships.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and Other Mental Health Issues (Co-Morbidity and Dual Diagnosis) [Kindle Edition]
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is often diagnosed together with Schizoid and Paranoid Personality Disorders; Histrionic Personality Disorder) and Somatic Narcissism; Depression; Dissociative Identity Disorder; Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder; Bipolar Disorder; Asperger’s Disorder; Generalized Anxiety Disorder; Borderline Personality Disorder; Schizotypal Personality Disorder; Psychosis; Antisocial Personality Disorder (Psychopathy); Munchausen Syndrome; Neuroses; Masochism; Homosexuality; Gender Dysphoria; and Sexual Perversions (paraphilias.)
Narcissistic Supply: The Narcissist’s Drug [Kindle Edition]
I. What is Narcissistic Supply?
II. What are the functions of Narcissistic Supply in the narcissistic pathology?
III. Why does the narcissist devalue his Source of Secondary Narcissistic Supply (SSNS)?
IV. Could negative input serve as Narcissistic Supply (NS)?
V. Does the narcissist want to be liked?
VI. How does the narcissist treat his former Sources of Narcissistic Supply?
VII. How does the Narcissist React to Deficient Narcissistic Supply?
Narcissistic and Psychopathic Leaders [Kindle Edition]
Narcissistic and psychopathic leaders come in all shapes and degrees of virulence. Learn to recognize them in various settings (the workplace, religion, politics) and to cope with the toxic fallout of their “leadership”.
The Misogynistic (Women-Hating) Narcissist [Kindle Edition]
Narcissists are misogynists, women-haters. Women represent sex, intimacy, and family and, therefore, threatening mediocrity. The narcissist divides all women into sluttish huntresses and sexless saints. He aims to frustrate and subjugate them.
Personality Disorders Revisited [Kindle Edition]
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1982908688 (Print Edition)
450 pages about Borderline, Narcissistic, Antisocial-Psychopathic, Histrionic, Paranoid, Obsessive-Compulsive, Schizoid, Schizotypal, Masochistic, Sadistic, Depressive, Negativistic-Passive-Aggressive, Dependent, and other Personality Disorders.
Personality Disorders: Use and Abuse of Differential Diagnoses [Kindle Edition]
The differential diagnoses in the personality disorders section of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM) contain many overlaps and culture-bound artefacts.
The categorical (non-dimensional) taxonomy leads to multiple diagnoses (co-morbidity) in the same patient.
Mini Dictionary of Mental Health and Psychology [Kindle Edition]
A mini dictionary of mental health disorders, psychological tests and interviews, signs and symptoms, and psychological defenses.
Psychological Defense Mechanisms [Kindle Edition]
According to Freud and his followers, our psyche is a battlefield between instinctual urges and drives (the id), the constraints imposed by reality on the gratification of these impulses (the ego), and the norms of society (the superego). This constant infighting generates what Freud called “neurotic anxiety” (fear of losing control) and “moral anxiety” (guilt and shame).
But these are not the only types of anxiety. “Reality anxiety” is the fear of genuine threats and it combines with the other two to yield a morbid and surrealistic inner landscape.
These multiple, recurrent, “mini-panics” are potentially intolerable, overwhelming, and destructive. Hence the need to defend against them. There are dozens of defense mechanisms. The most common among them are listed and described in this booklet.
Psychological Signs and Symptoms [Kindle Edition]
Symptoms are the patient’s complaints. They are highly subjective and amenable to suggestion and to alterations in the patient’s mood and other mental processes. Symptoms are no more than mere indications. Signs, on the other hand, are objective and measurable. Signs are evidence of the existence, stage, and extent of a pathological state. Headache is a symptom – short-sightedness (which may well be the cause of the headache) is a sign.
Psychological Tests and Interviews [Kindle Edition]
II. MMPI-2 Test
III. MCMI-III Test
IV. Rorschach Inkblot Test
V. TAT Diagnostic Test
VI. Structured Interviews
VII. Disorder-specific Tests
APPENDIX: Common Problems with Psychological Laboratory Tests
Short Fiction about Narcissism and Mental Health [Kindle Edition]
Short fiction about narcissists, psychopaths, pathological narcissism, and mental health disorders.
The Conundrums of Psychology [Kindle Edition]
The fundamental assumptions underlying the modern study of psychopathology examined.
The DSM V and the Concept of Mental Illness Lecture Notes and Articles [Kindle Edition]
The DSM V approach to the concepts of normalcy and mental illness, with special emphasis on personality disorders (including Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and the insanity defense.
The Developmental Psychology of Psychopathology [Kindle Edition]
Psychopathology as the outcome of problems in early childhood development.
The Narcissist and Psychopath in Therapy [Kindle Edition]
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1717820336 (Print Edition)
Can narcissists and psychopaths be cured? Can their behaviour be modified? How are these mental health disorders diagnosed?
The Narcissist and the Psychopath in the Workplace [Kindle Edition]
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1717793819 (Print Edition)
How to identify narcissistic and psychopathic bullies (colleagues, bosses, suppliers, authority figures) in the workplace and how to cope with them.
The Narcissist’s Mother [Kindle Edition]
Early childhood conflicts with the narcissist’s mother shape his traits, personality, and behavior patterns as an adult.
The Narcissist’s Psychosexuality [Kindle Edition]
Cerebral narcissists use their intellect, intelligence, and verbal skills to derive narcissistic supply. Somatic narcissists leverage their body and sexuality to secure an uninterrupted flow of supply.
Each narcissist is either predominantly cerebral or somatic, but there is no type-constancy: the dominant type gives way to the recessive type in times of scarce, deficient, or absent supply (for instance: following a major life crisis).
Narcissists are also prone to incest and sexual paraphilias such as pedophilia and fetishism.
The Psychology of Serial and Mass Killers [Kindle Edition]
Serial killers represent a dual failure – of their own development as full-fledged, productive individuals – and of the culture and society they grow in. In a pathologically narcissistic civilization – social anomies proliferate. Such societies breed malignant objectifiers – people devoid of empathy – also known as “narcissists”.
Toxic Relationships: Abuse and its Aftermath [Kindle Edition]
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1983376655 (Print Edition)
How to identify abuse, cope with it, survive it, and deal with your abuser.
WORKBOOK (Tests and Exercises) Toxic Relationships: Abuse and its Aftermath [Kindle Edition]
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1717800815 (Print Edition)
Self-assessment questionnaires, tips, and tests for victims of abusers, batterers, and stalkers in various types of relationships.
Women in Relationships with Narcissists and Psychopaths: Mates, Spouses, and Intimate Partners [Kindle Edition]
The psychological makeup of women in relationships with narcissists and psychopaths; the dynamics of such relationships; typical behavior patterns; and expected outcomes. Includes tips and advice on how to cope with abusers in intimate relationships.
Selfish Marriages in Narcissistic Societies [Kindle Edition]
The ancient institution of monogamous marriage is ill-suited to the exigencies of modern Western civilization. People of both genders live and work longer (which renders monogamy impracticable); travel far and away frequently; and are exposed to thousands of tempting romantic alternatives via social networking.
But the roots of the crumbling alliance between men and women go deeper and further in time. Long before divorce became a social norm, men and women became two disparate, incompatible, and warring subspecies.
The 20th century was a monument to male fatuity: wars and ideologies almost decimated the species. Forced to acquire masculine skills and fill men’s shoes in factories and fields, women discovered militant self-autonomy, the superfluousness of men, and the untenability of the male claims to superiority over them.
In an age of malignant individualism, bordering on narcissism, men and women alike put themselves, their fantasies, and their needs first, all else – family included – be damned. And with 5 decades of uninterrupted prosperity, birth control, and feminism/ women’s lib most of the female denizens of the West have acquired the financial wherewithal to realize their dreams at the expense and to the detriment of collectives they ostensibly belong to (such as the nuclear family.) Feminism is a movement focused on negatives (obliterating women’s age-old bondage) but it offers few constructive ideas regarding women’s new roles. By casting men as the enemy, it also failed to educate them and convert them into useful allies.
The Death of Sex and the Demise of Monogamy [Kindle Edition]
Sex is dead as is monogamous marriage. What will replace them? read about alternative lifestyles (such as swinging), sexual preferences (such as bi- and homosexuality), sexual paraphilias (such as incest, fetishism, and pedophilia), and the role of malignant narcissism in the disintegration of all relationships between men and women.
The Decline of Empathy: In Business, the Workplace, and the Family [Kindle Edition]
Empathy is at the foundation of both altruism and collaboration. Thus, while it does consume scarce resources, empathy confers important evolutionary advantages both from the individual’s point of view (cooperation) and from the species’s (altruism.)
Yet, we are witnessing a marked decline in both the ubiquity and utility of empathy. The decline in physical violence is not a good proxy to a supposed rise in empathy: aggression and narcissism merely mutated into non-physical forms enabled by technology.
Whatever happened to empathy? Where have solidarity, charity, and compassion gone?
How to Cope with Narcissistic and Psychopathic Abusers and Stalkers [Kindle Edition]
https://www.amazon.com/dp/198109945X (Print Edition)
How to cope with stalkers, bullies, narcissists, psychopaths, and other abusers in the family, community, and workplace. How to navigate a system, which is often hostile to the victim: the courts, law enforcement (police), psychotherapists, evaluators, and social or welfare services. Tips, advice, and information.
The Aging Narcissist: Three Perspectives [Kindle Edition]
The narcissist ages without mercy and without grace. His withered body and his overwrought mind betray him all at once. He stares with incredulity and rage at cruel mirrors. He refuses to accept his growing fallibility. He rebels against his decrepitude and mediocrity. Accustomed to being awe-inspiring and the recipient of adulation – the narcissist cannot countenance his social isolation and the pathetic figure that he cuts.
The narcissist suffers from mental progeria. Subject to childhood abuse, he ages prematurely and finds himself in a time warp, constantly in the throes of a midlife crisis. On the other hand, he is a puer aeternus, an eternal child: immature, sulking and pouting, unable to delay gratification, unwilling to commit or to assume adult roles and chores.